In order for my ex to sign a temporary six-month PFA, he wanted three conditions. 1) A picture of my cats (I say mine because they were pooping in litter boxes in my apartment long before he began stinking up my bathroom) 2) a picture of us together at a wedding we attended (thank God it was not our wedding, which we talked about doing within days after we met, proving I can claim insanity for being in this relationship to begin with) 3)He wanted to talk to me for five minutes. I refused to talk to him and we ended up settling the matter with #'s 1 and 2, him signing the PFA and it being in effect for six months.
About two weeks later, the dummy called my lawyer, (who I obtained for no cost), and told her he didn't get the pictures. I had sent them out two days after our court appearance and even called my lawyer to tell her the pics were on their way to him. But its just like him to lie; that was a constant in our relationship. The man was a pathological liar. It came so natural to him, I think he could no longer tell the difference between what was truth and what wasn't.
Anyway, he threatened my lawyer by saying he was going to come over here, and that I'd be seeing him, and so forth. I have to thank him for that, because that was a direct violation of the PFA, contacting me through a third person and making a threat/harassment. Happily, his lying arse ended up getting arrested (after I went to my local magistrate and filed Indirect Criminal Contempt charges, and the judge signed the order thanks to a representative from WomansPlace helping me out.) He had to go before a judge and I later learned he went to jail until he was released at 2 a.m. This was worth all the trouble of going to court a total of five times, not to mention the parking I had to pay for in Pittsburgh which depleted my life savings.
This man really makes me laugh. When he was trying to get back with me, he pulled the "I'm a Christian, I'm with the Lord, I'm saved, I've changed" nonsense. Now, I am a Christian, but I have not attended church for quite some time, and I have become backslidden, but I am now attempting to get back on the right track. I believe people get saved and have life changing experiences with Jesus Christ, but unfortunately many of them don't last and go right back to their old ways... like my ex. He claimed to be a Christian yet attempted to break into my apartment, put a boulder through the windshield of my car, caused me to lose a job, and harassed me to no end until the PFA finally stopped him. What did I do to him? I ended our relationship and refused to take him back. He sent me flowers and gifts in an effort to win me back, and it didn't work, so he became very angry. I suppose he doesn't know the Scripture, be angry and sin not.
I hope he had time to think about his relationship with the Lord and what he's done to me while he spent that night in jail and beyond. And, while I have forgiven him for what he's done, he will no longer be a part of my life at all. I pray that he finds happiness and peace and truly changes into the kind of person God wants him to be. And I hope through my experience, I can help others.
